Mindsets are neural networks that have formed in the course of life. They also determine perception through feedback with the senses. In a situation we only see what the head wants. And that is almost ever what supports our mindset. Deviating information is neglected. This selected information goes into our heads for processing. There they got interpreted and evaluated and determine our behavior.
For example, a man can interpret his wife’s inquiries as pushing or patronizing. Perception may then focus on the undertone, the annoyed frown or the arms on the hips. The small snack in hand and the smile may be overlooked. It does not fit the intended interpretation.
We learned mindsets at some point, we took them over unconsciously. That is why mindsets are difficult to perceive in oneself. We feel what we think is right and the only true possibility. And we know thousands of reasons why we’re right. We did not have any information on any other interpretation.